Old Wives Tales

oldwivesAngel has this competition, with prizes going on right now. (A set of five autographed “No-Cry” books by Elizabeth Pantley and a mystery gift)

Her instructions?

Anyone can enter, and to enter I would like you to write a blog post about an old-wives tale that has to do with raising a child, and whether or not you think it has any relevance today (you can find some here if you’re stuck for ideas).

Link to this post so I can find the posts of course and spread the word. I’ll post the books to the winner no matter where in the world they are.

And I will send something special- and not necessarily parenting related- to the person who refers the most people here, so be sure others know to tell me where they came from ;). Competition closes a week from today on October 29th.”

So here’s my entry. And I have a few things I’d like to talk about:

1. Heartburn means your baby will have lots of hair. I’d say this one’s pretty much true. I had heartburn (not bad either) maybe twice in my pregnancy. My Kid was born practically bald and it took him about two years to grow a full head of hair. He has very fine, blond hair, like me.

troy 2 086

2. If you crave sweets while you’re pregnant it’s going to be a girl. Absolute trollop. At least for me, mother to a boy. I had another reason for craving sweets. Because my morning sickness was SO bad nothing would stay in my stomach for longer than 2 minutes.

Eventually I discovered that I could stomach wine gums and jelly babies and it was all I craved. Why? Because they were digested so quickly, there was nothing that my body could push the eject button on, and I was getting some nutrients and sugar from the sweets, so they stayed.

3. Breastfeeding is easy, simple and natural. I dont know how many times I heard/read that while pregnant. What breastfeeding actually turned out to be was a whole other difficult and time-consuming mess.

Feeds could sometimes take up to an hour. I was always thirsty, tired and hungry and cranky. Bottle-feeding turned out to be so much easier, and so much less traumatic than I’d expected.

4. If your new baby is constantly crying and seems hungry your milk is too weak. I have only one word for this, and I wish I’d remembered it when people were telling me this: “Bullshit”. It means your baby is going through a growth spurt and is demanding more milk, and that your milk supply will soon adjust, if you’re patient enough. Drink as much liquids as you can, and try persist, if breastfeeding is your thing.

5. A baby should learn to soothe itself without a pacifier/dummy. I say nay, and say . Better to be a dummy sucker than a thumb sucker, I say. I know some grown ups who still suck their thumbs, but I dont know any grown ups who still suck a dummy, do you?

n903830440_2427234_9941

Now, at the ripe old age of nearly two, we’re firmly on our way to ditching the dummy successfully. We reached a point where he accepted that dummies were only for sleeping. Then we reached a point where he no longer asked for his dummy during the day at all. And now, we’re on our way to not needing the dummy at night either.

Despite old wives tales, despite having not followed the rules, and despite having been a rather bad mommy, I don’t think I’ve done a bad job thus far. Why? Because I listened to the most important wives tale of all.

Trust your maternal instinct. If it feels wrong, don’t do it. If it feels right, do it.

IMG00992-20091028-0635

Photo Credit: ‘Old Wives Tales’: CafeMama on Flickr.

Advertisements

mommynightowl

Photobucket

“Todays guest post is brought to you by Jessica from Mommynightowl. She also writes at San Diego Toddler Days. This is all part of the TwitterMoms “blog swap.” Please don’t forget to check out my post over on their site.”

I will start with a little about myself: I am Jessica, a 22-year-old wife and mother who resides in California.  On the thirteenth I will have two years experience as a mother, so I’m just getting started.  My husband and I knew we wanted a family , we just weren’t planning to have it so early.

There were times in the first few months of my daughter’s life that I regretted my decisions and was upset about being a new mother but now I can’t even imagine my life without her.  She is my reason for everything I do, she is my whole life.  I have learned to embrace and even love being a mother.  There’s just something to say about having a sense of accomplishment that another day has went well in unplanned motherhood.  So I bring to you, the reasons I love being a mother:

-My daughter came before we were able to get on our feet, but has made us want to do so much more with our lives.  Before my daughter came into my life I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life.  When she was four months old I got really post par-tum depression, I was hospilized for three days, so I knew I had to get back to work. I’m a bad mommy in a sense that I love my daughter to death but I can’t be with her by myself 24/7/365.  I needed a break to recollect the patience I’d lost.  I’ve started to go back to school and now I’m about to graduate to be a dental assistant.

-There’s no picker upper like unconditional love.  There’s nothing almost nothing you could do to make your kids not love you. As long as you show them love, they will show they love you. It doesn’t matter if I put my daughter in time out, 30 minutes later she will be in my arms, wanting and giving hugs saying I love you mommy.

-Her smile and laugh. How can you be angry when you see your child smile or hear their laugh?

Photobucket

-How smart she is. I like to think I helped in some way or another to make her so smart. Maybe, maybe not, but in my mind I helped out with that, she is my daughter after all.

-This summer I really starting looking for things to do with my daughter, to get out of the house. I started researching and came across mommy group after mommy group and blogging. Being a mother lets you open easier when you find people who are mothers themselves. Motherhood makes you so much more outgoing.

-I only get better each day in being a mother. And I may not be the best mom in the world but theres always someone worse, otherwise why would therapy be a million dollar industry? And besides the world needs bad moms anyways, otherwise how would all the “good” moms know how to set their standards?

– I get to be a kid again. I get to read kiddy books all day, and sing silly songs and play with paint and color with crayons.  How cool is that?

-There’s so much to learn from kids.  Things you learn from yourself: patience,self esteem, not to worry so much .  And things you learn from them: how to share, how to be curious, happy, active and outgoing.

Mom With Babe

20081129_the_kids_party_7497

Photo taken by Angel. From The Kid’s Birthday Party this Saturday.

Thursday Challenge

photo1471A Thursday photo meme, found here.The theme for this week is ‘SOFT‘.

Here’s my interpretation of it.

This picture was taken in May this year. The Kid would have been six months old. In the mornings, he’d wake up, I’d bring him back to bed with me, feed him a bottle, and he’d fall asleep and I’d leave him to sleep in my bed for an hour or so, while I made The Boyfriend breakfast and packed his lunch for work.

On this particular morning, I came back into the bedroom, and this is what I saw. The Kid sleeping with one hand thrown over his head, and his other hand tucked under his chin. The duvet pulled over his head. It made my heart completely soft with love.

I don’t know about other mommies, but I’m certainly of the firm belief that I love my child the most when he’s asleep. When his face is softened by sleep. His lips are all pouty, and he sleeps with complete abandon and trust. Faith that all is right with the world, and that there’s nothing that mommy and daddy can’t fix.

That, dear readers, is what makes my hard heart completely soft..

Quote of The Day

Life is tough enough without having someone kick you from the inside”.  ~Rita Rudner

You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she’s pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment”.  ~Dave Barry, “Things That It Took Me 50 Years to Learn”

“Somewhere on this globe, every ten seconds, there is a woman giving birth to a child.  She must be found and stopped. ” ~Sam Levenson

“Love and pregnancy and riding on a camel cannot be hid.”  ~Arabic Proverb

“People are giving birth underwater now.  They say it’s less traumatic for the baby because it’s in water. But certainly more traumatic for the other people in the pool.”  ~Elayne Boosler

Congrats, to MommaNats, who has just found out she’s pregnant with her second. Good luck to you, my friend.

PS: I can’t wait until I can say ‘I told you so. you’re crazy for having a second child voluntarily!’

Here’s A Picture For You

Have been cooking and baking all evening. For The Kid’s party. Trying to lessen the work on the actual day. So I’m exhausted. Just wanted to share a NaBloPoMo picture with you. Because I have to. 6 more days until it’s over!

dscn0873

This picture was taken at Jackson’s 2nd birthday party. There’s more over on my other blog.

I Wish….

I’d kept a pregnancy journal. But there was so much going on while I was pregnant – writing thesis, writing exams, buying house and moving and preparing for baby – that I just kinda let it fall by the way side. Plus, I didn’t think my regular readers on my blog at that time would be interested in pregnancy updates all the time.

Now I regret it. I was thinking about it last night. I don’t actually remember much from my pregnancy, but would like to get down what I do recall. So here it is…

  1. The morning sickness was appalling. Morning sickness my ass. Pregnancy-related illness, I think is what it’s called now. From the second I opened my eyes, until I eventually fell asleep in exhaustion from the projectile vomiting. I didn’t eat for months. Really, I didn’t. I lost like 11kg. My morning sickness lasted about 4 and a half months. Smells really made me feel bad, and it was easy to trigger off the vomiting. The smell of garlic, which I normally love, made me feel so disgustingly ill.
  2. I loved having a tummy. I hated the bloating and water-retention. I loved feeling the baby move inside me. It was like hatching an alien, and feeling it try fight its way out.
  3. The first time The Boyfriend and I went to the gynae, and heard the heart beat, was probably such an instant-bonding experience for us. I don’t think it had sunk in for either of us. But hearing the baby’s heart beat was incredible. It was so fast, and so strong. The Boyfriend’s eyes misted up, and he looked completely enchanted. He was completely besotted with the fact that his baby was growing inside me.
  4. I didn’t get any weird cravings. I didn’t eat coal, or pickles and ice cream, like I’d heard some women did. Except for  strawberry milkshake once. And that was it. Other than that, it was all about quantity, when eventually the morning sickness passed. The more the better as far as I was concerned. I got very hungry, and when I was hungry, I needed to be fed immediately. Otherwise I got very cranky.
  5. Maternity clothes were appalling. I hated them with a passion. There was nothing flattering. Fat pants to the max. I was miserable, fashion wise, for months.
  6. I was moody, and very tempermental. I beat The Boyfriend up on a daily basis.
  7. That being said, he looked after me so lovingly. Constantly cooking for me, running me baths, buying me nice things, rubbing my back and telling me I looked lovely. Even though I probably didn’t.
  8. Ante-natal classes were fun. Fun but scary. And it was nothing like you see on tv, with yoga mats, and spread legs and squatting and breathing heavily. It was more like a lecture. But an informative one. One that you actually try to remember, because you know this shit is going to come in handy.
  9. I hated people touching the belly. Unless I knew you and you asked, it annoyed me. People would come up to me in supermarkets, and touch me. Creeped me right out.
  10. I loved it when The Boyfriend used to lie with his head on the belly, talking and singing to The Kid. Those moments were special.

Sigh…I also wish I’d taken more pregnancy photos..